Sunday, December 9, 2012

Acceptance

First grade Waldorf classroom

First grade Waldorf classroom

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I attended a parent meeting for K's class over the weekend. I always love it when I am able to make it to them... I feel like I am getting a mini Waldorf education of my own. This particular meeting was even more delightful than I expected.We all spoke and shared quite personal  moments with one another. The best part was that we are all so open and accepting there was no judgement to be found. Goodness, I love our community - have I made that clear enough yet over the years?!

I am a big mess when it comes to speaking in front of others. I doesn't matter if it's a room full of friends or strangers - as soon as I feel the focus on me my face turns bright red, my heart starts to beat loud and fast, I shake, I am unable to breathe normal and end up gasping for air in between words, I can't articulate nor can I even hear what I am saying - it's as if I am under water. Even if I think it all out ahead of time, I just can't get the words together so my point doesn't come across. I pity any one who has to listen to me. I honestly try not to speak unless I really have to, but sometimes I just get nervous and excited and start muttering incohesively. (I did that our first parent meeting.) I swear I am not exaggerating. Oy vey. I have always been this way so I am trying to accept it. Anyone else this crazy??

Moving on... We may have to rethink our Advent wreath location this year, or maybe just put it up when it is not lit. Chubba Bubba has been in attack mode leaving a trail of destruction in his wake. I might be a bit irritated if it wasn't so funny. He is such a rascal and keeps us all in stitches over his antics.We have been trying to find ways for him to feel more like he's a part of what we are doing. The girls trade back and forth opening the Advent calender and placing the ornament on the Jesse tree each day but Little L didn't have anything to do. We decided to make him his own Advent chain. Now he can look forward to ripping and destroying something on a daily basis. He quite enjoys himself.

One last note - Every year we get a new Christmas book to add to our collection. Usually St. Nicholas will bring it but this year it didn't arrive in time so he gave the girls another book I already had saved for them. Anyways, I  wanted to share this little gem with you. I am so happy to have discovered it. It's called  Christmas Day in the Morning. We actually currently have it on loan from the library but I loved it and knew it was one we must own. The story is from 1955 but it was only released recently as a picture book. It's about a boy (that lives on a farm in the country) who discovers just how much his father really loves him and he wants to show just how much he loves him back, but they don't have a lot of money and it's Christmas Eve, so how could he?  Then he realizes what the best gift of all is...It's truly a book that nurtures what we try to instill in our children. *love!*

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I so envy your waldorf community. I would so love to have that! Such resources!

I know exactly what you mean when it comes to public speaking. I often feel dumb in front of others because I just can't express myself as well as I can through writing. When I was in college I used to tear up when someone I didn't know began talking to me. I wasn't crying just nervous! I am much better at it now, but still not great. Having very talkative kids has helped. They throw me into all kinds of conversations with anyone around. lol! I figure by the time I'm old and gray I'll have it down.
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Oh Becca, you and I sound a lot alike. I wish I could get past this but maybe when I am old and gray, too ;)
Heehee, introversion, strikes again! It's a beautiful part of you, and many other wonderful people (myself majorly included!!). I'm reading a book right now called "The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World" and it's great! I think it's funny how often our children go through similar phases, like with your advent wreath.... we use four tissue paper covered mason jars with tea lights in them...Nomi threw two of them the other day. They are cracked, but seem to be holding together, maybe from all the modge-podge? I'm not sure if they will make it another year... Love you dear!
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Maybe I need to check out this book!
Youhave me giggling over the modge-podge holding together the advent candle jars.
I feel like that when I am speaking in front of a group of adults, too. Every single time. You were very articulate and managed to power through. You didn't even seem nervous! : )
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Thank you. You sounded amazing - you always do! I just wish I could get what I really want to say out.
I just needed to tell you...I am just like that in large groups. When I was in college I had to take a public speaking course. It was horibble...we had to complete 4 speaches throughout the semester. I skipped the last one! I just couldn't stand the idea of getting up in front of the class again. I still got a B though, so I was fine with that!
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Oh goodness, I was lucky to miss that in college. I probably would have passed out!
I would rather do anything that speak formally to any size group of people. Honestly, it has made me avoid a lot of things. I'm the vice president at my children's school, and the monthly board meeting and biannual corporation meetings are excruciating. I am fine with children and find that I can substitute in the classroom with ease, but grownups are too scary.

I am reassured that I'm not the only one. I am enjoying the photos of the holiday deconstruction. My youngest if four now, and she is is much less destructive this year.
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so I am not the only one avoiding things b/c of this fear? I even find myself not talking to people I see out and about just due to this silly fear! :P
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Julianna McDowell · 642 weeks ago

You are definitely not alone. I struggle with talking in front of ONE adult. Kids, no problem, but the moment I speak in front of an equal, I am somehow unable to make eye contact, stumble over my words and doubt every sing thing that comes out of my mouth. I am my own worst critic. :) But I am learning, learning to trust myself. God keeps giving me situations in which to grow and become more comforable in my skin. Frustrating at times, but grateful in the end. :)
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Wonderful words Julianna! Iswearyour fearssound like you took them out of myhead. I am the exact.same.way.
You just described me with public speaking! And I really have trouble when people ask questions you really need to think about, I feel so dumb when talking about topics important to me (or things I know nothing about, but maybe should!), and I just can't convey what I want to say in an intelligent manner. I hope it gets better with time!
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me, too! Thank you for sharing!
I can FEEL the rush of red and that makes me even more embarrassed. Sometimes I'm positive I'm maroon with embarrassment. So silly. Eloquent ladies like ourselves...I keep telling myself that with age comes a womanly confidence--it's one reason I embrace aging so much...
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You know, I think I need to start embracing aging as well.
Oh dear I get the same way when speaking and it does not have to be a big group either :( same rush of blood and unable to form a thought let alone a sentence and I have to remind myself to breathe. Luckily in a Waldorf school you are with the same group of parents as your children move through the school so hopefully with time you will feel comfortable to speak to the group.
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That is a good point! I hope we both can get past it!
that's interesting and kind of funny because through writing you are so articulate and well-spoken. I wonder if there would be a way for you to think about speaking as though you were writing a blog post only instead of typing the words, say them with your voice?

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