Monday, November 7, 2011

Rhythm In Our Home : A Fairy Tradition

I realize this post is a bit bizarre (wasn't I just posting about Advent yesterday?), but I am a bit behind (what's new?!). If it makes it any better I did plan on posting this Halloween night...



Halloween is a holiday that our family started celebrating rather on accident. We didn't have any plans to make it a yearly celebration, (although we didn't have any plans the other way, either) but it's one of those holidays that once you start celebrating it with children, it's hard to stop. One of the reasons we were originally not so interested in celebrating it is because of the candy/sugar. We couldn't think of a way to get around it. Then the perfect solution for our family came to us - the Halloween Fairy. I would love to give credit where it's due for the idea but, for the life of me, I just can not remember who/where we got it from . It's so simple and sweet. It works really well, too...at least for now while they are still in early childhood. (Halloween from the past here, here, and here) This is what our family does:



Since trick or treating begins after the girls bedtime we keep it short. We have an early dinner, the girls get in their costumes and we go out for about a half hour. That is just the right amount of time for them. (and for the rest of us!) This year we did something a bit more fun. After our half hour, we stopped at our special neighbor's house (remember the ones I gushed about a few times before? The one who might end up being K's first grade teacher???) to end the night. That was more exciting to the girls than all the trick or treating they previously did. We chatted with them for a bit and the girls even received something they could actually eat from them (honey straws), then we went home.



There was a bowl on the kitchen table waiting for the girls' candy. The girls looked through it for something they could keep, but, alas there was nothing. Then one by one they placed their candy pieces in to the bowl. Once every last piece was in there, we put the bowl in the center of the table for the Halloween Fairy to find.
We then did our usual bedtime rhythm and the girls went to bed. While they slept the Halloween Fairy, ahem - Kevin and I, gathered up the candy and brought it downstairs for Kevin to hide in his bag until he could bring it to work. Of course we both ate a few pieces. I always need to eat a bit of candy this time of year to remind myself that I really just don't like the taste of it anymore.





When the girls woke up the next morning (always earlier than usual, out of pure excitement) the bowl once filled with candy was now filled with treasures for them, instead. We try not to overdue it and give them too much, instead we want it to be just enough handmade goodness that's worth giving up their candy for. This year the Halloween Fairy was very grateful for handmade help from others. The girls received some honey straws, stickers, the sweetest sheep set from Little Wool (oh my goodness are they sweet! Even cuter than the pictures could show), and beautiful handmade notebooks from Frost Lane. The girls really enjoyed their gifts and they really inspired them, as you can see!















We enjoy this tradition, and I hope it can last quite a while.K seems to be the most excited over the Halloween Fairy. She even dressed as her for Halloween this year. Every year, the day after Halloween she likes to leave a note on our nature table for the Halloween Fairy. She asks the fairies that visit our house to bring it to her. It is just a small, simple note saying thanks, but oh how huge that gratitude is to this Halloween Fairy Mama!

Please remember - this is just our family rhythm and what works for us at the moment. This isn't meant to be hard and fast rules on how rhythm should go in every one or any one's homes. I just thought to share it because I receive quite a few e-mails asking about our home rhythm, and I also just wanted it documented for myself so that I may remember these times when they are older and/or on to another rhythm.

Thank you, again, for joining me in the rhythm fun! Here is the linky list. If you have a (new or old) link you would like to share about your family rhythm, please enter it below so that we all may see. Then please link back here in your post. I look forward to seeing your inspiration!
Thanks friends!


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Love to read you, as always.
I do like your idea.

I thought about doing something like this in our house, but I dunno. Maybe because Halloween is my FAVORITE holiday (even more so than Christmas sometimes) and I have so many fond memories of trick or treating I just can't bare to take away the candy. We limit my daughter to one piece a day, and take away the crap stuff. You know the hard pieces of gum, weird bits and stuff that just looks suspect. A lot of the time she forgets that she has it after a day or two and we can dispose of it without her putting up a fuss. But if I tried to do that now, my kid would look at me like I have three heads. Hahaha.

In a perfect world our family would live in a neighborhood that shared our beliefs and ideas and we could have everyone give healthy treats. Caramel apples and muffins and popcorn balls. The kids could go trick or treating without worrying about what is safe and whatnot. What a wonderful place to live in!

But I wonder how long you can keep this up. Because so much of the "outside" world creeps into these little worlds we create for our kids. I haven't been able to keep her as sheltered as I like because of family and all that. We have succumbed to Barbie dolls here. At least I can knit them outfits. I only allow the ones with proper clothing and not that many. But part of me knew that when I finally gave in to Barbie it was pretty much over for us, ha. Don't give in to Barbie, haha.
1 reply · active 698 weeks ago
Ha,ha, NO Barbie! I love that Halloween is your favorite holiday! I think we should all celebrate it how we see fit.
I do have to admit that we are pretty blessed living where we do. Most of our community lives the saem way as us so it really helps but I know it won't be this way forever....
We use this idea, too, and my kids still really like it. They are nine and seven years old. They get to eat some candy on Halloween night, and then choose 10 pieces to keep before putting the rest out for the fairy. They get to choose when to eat the 10 pieces and really,I don't care if they eat them all the next morning, which they usually do. I wanted to limited the amount they ate, yes, but I also wanted to do away with the constant negotiations for when they could have another piece, having to hide it so it wasn't snuck, etc. Now everybody is happy. :)
We do this too, with the Pumpkin Fairy! We started it last year when our son was diagnosed with anaphylaxis to peanuts and tree nuts. Halloween became TERRIFYING to me and I went searching for ideas to keep him safe, while continuing on with the fun of trick or treating. Then we discovered that our daughter's autism symptoms, and our son's eczema, were greatly reduced by going on a gluten-free, casein-free diet. The Pumpkin Fairy came to the rescue again. Last year we let our daughter have a few pieces of candy before giving the rest to the Pumpkin Fairy. This year, they gave everything to the Pumpkin Fairy and not a single complaint was heard. Their handsewn bat stuffies were all they cared about in the morning. Most of the fun of Halloween is in dressing up and playing pretend, anyway. No need to ruin it with sugar meltdowns or life-threatening allergic reactions.
I'm willing to bet that all of our children will be happy to continue this tradition well into their older years. Waiting to see what the Pumpkin Fairy (or Halloween Fairy) has left behind, is so much more exciting than any bag of candy.
beautiful, as always-- and some very inspirational ideas for next year!
also, dear nicole- they should NOT be giving you a hard time at WIC. I used to work there and I can tell you that's not supposed to happen. All you need to say is 'religious exception' and they should clam up right away. if you still have trouble or feel you are being treated unfairly, please consider writing a letter to the organization. I just finished one myself!!! (a male nutritionist felt the need to tell me that he thought 'biys who were breastfed past 2 would probably be mentally disturbed.' He also chastised me for not giving Wesley 3 cups of milk per day, along with juice. )
1 reply · active 698 weeks ago
Thank you, Rebecca. I will do that!
LOVE that sheep shot!! We get a visit from sugar sprites. This year about 1/2 of the candy went to them (last year it was 1/4 and the year before 100%...ah, my life of compromise!) Anyway, we do love this tradition and will keep it up because DS won't touch candy that isn't nut-free chocolate (LOL). xoxo
What a wonderful idea! The way you teach your children gratitude for their world, and the value of giving things up that they want, is so inspiring. When I was growing up, my family didn't eat well--processed everything, meat, and hormone-filled milk with every meal! Reading your blog lets me know my dream of a vegetarian, sugar-free family will be a reality! My partner and I read your blog as inspiration for our future family. :) Thanks for everything you do!
1 reply · active 698 weeks ago
Wow, Lacy - such an honor, thank you!
I grew up on junk, too. I can remember my Mom trying to feed me healthy food and I would just refuse to eat, then my grandpa would come over with fast food and candy bars. Makes me sick to think about now :p
i have good news for you! At 13 my eldest is still in love with the "switch witch"! She is always so excited to see what the morning will bring:) Her excitement is contagious and the younger children follow her lead. Last year I was trying to tell her that i was the switch witch and she stopped me mid-sentence and told me not to ruin it or any other holiday for that matter!
1 reply · active 698 weeks ago
Woo hooo!! That is great news! Thank you for sharing that - you give me hope!
We have the sugar fairy. She need sugar to survive the winter. My kids really feel like they are helping by giving away their candy. Occasionally she makes visits through the house and takes extra sugar (usually only when we have guests and special occasions as we don't eat sugar). She always leaves a little something for trade :)
I have heard of this but we haven't tried it though. I heard that a local candy store takes donated candy and sends it to troops. i love the idea of honey sticks though, for handing out to the few who come by the house. Thanks!
Love this idea of having the Halloween Fairy. We don't do Halloween here although it is quiet "in" since some years now in Germany. But I love the idea of the Fairy for Easter. How do you manage that your girls don't eat her candy on the way when doing trick or treating? I guess my boy would do it.
1 reply · active 698 weeks ago
So far they haven't touched the candy until we get home...but we'll see how much longer that lasts.
fantastic. it's amazing how easily children are willing to accept these things if we offer alternatives. And there ARE alternatives that they enjoy to most everything any parent decides doesn't fit their family. Thanks for reminding me to think outside the box!
Our children are much older, and will not part with all of their candy! So we let them keep a few pieces, then they trade in the rest for a surprise. They are very willing and happy to do this. This year we gave them window markers and magnetic bookmarks, and they were very happy. Offering good alternatives is sometimes hard to think of initially, but definitely worth it in the end!
We also have Halloween fairies visit us... http://sarah-ourislandhome.blogspot.com/2011/11/h... . I love to learn about your family traditions. Thanks for sharing and once again, those costumes are SO ADORABLE!
That is a cute tradition. I love that your little one was in a crochet/knit costume. My 3-year-old was too (a polar bear).
We do this at our house too, but with the Sugar Plum fairy :)

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