Monday, March 19, 2012

of weather and parenting

024 027 022 018 016 We pretty much went through all four seasons over the course of about 12 hours today. We awoke to the chirping of spring birds and father sun's warm glow and then just a couple of hours later the sky became dark and huge snowflakes fell from the sky. Baby L woke up from his nap and just stared out the sliding glass door mesmerized by them. 004 054 (messy clothes from crawling outside!) 035 031 (notice the melted hail droplets on his hair) 046 043 A little while later it rained and then the rain turned to hail. The girls were finishing up their baths so I took Baby L out to experience hail for the first time. We stood under cover and stuck our hands out to catch the hail. He caught a few pieces and giggled with delight. I grabbed an old wooden bowl and put it on the railing outside of our kitchen to see how much hail we could gather. Once the hail stopped the sun came right back out and it was spring all over again. I brought the bowl in and let Baby L experience it some more. Of course, it quickly turned to water but he enjoyed every second of it while it lasted. Just like the weather, we had an up and down day of parenting. K is at the end of a week long illness, and has been cooped up (along with C) in this house far too long. Add to that the usual crazy excitement (for all the little ones) of Daddy being home with us and then top it with a sensitive Mama dealing with hurt feelings over a recent comment on a post  well, I am guessing you can imagine the outcome. I know there is grace in each and every moment of all that was today - now I need to go reflect on that. I am so thankful for each blessing, even if it doesn't seem like a blessing at the time, I know in my heart it really is. Parenting and weather really are quite similar - everything changes frequently and sometimes rather suddenly, temperatures (or moods) go hot/cold, and you always have to be prepared for what happens next, but no matter what play and enjoy every minute of it! 083 Now to wind down with Kevin, and some (sugar-free, paleo friendly) Coconut Bliss. Thanks for reading. See you soon for KCCO!

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Nicole, I just read that comment....your reply was very tactful...the reason people don't use their real name or email, is because they have every intention of being nasty. A cyber bully. I love reading your blog. You are an amazing mama, who provides a wonderful environment for your children. And as for your husband, one can only see through your writing of him that he is a well loved and well supported man. Don't let trolls get you down :) x Shara
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I am not a "cyber bully" if such an expression exists beyond the fifth grade. Nor did I have nasty intentions. Nicole was posting publicly about what I considered serious issues for families. I have replied to her responses to me in the original post. I also offered her a sincere apology regarding her emotional issues.
I love the bowl of hail, what a fun way to experience it!
Dear Nicole,
We all go through days like these. We have ups and downs, everyone of us and yet the beauty to be able to see the joy in those moments is a gift, a gift to be treasured.
I haven't seen the nasty comment but totally get it. I had someone doing that to me and us sensitive loving mamas are left feeling that we have not done good enough.
I love baby L with the hail. Babies bring a joy of their own that is another of God's blessings
Much love and support as you share your 'real life' in all it's glory
God Bless
Gae
Oh his little hands are so sweet!! We all have ups and downs...around here they seem hourly sometimes :) I hope this week helps you get a little more "back to normal" after sickness-- and so sorry you had to deal with unpleasant comments. I wish I could make you a cup of tea! I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I can find my camera cable...I've missed joining in with KCCO!! Much love, and God Bless!
Mackenzie
*hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs*

Also. Baby L and the hail/snow bowl - too cute!
I hope things start flowing better for you. Cooped up, icky feeling kids often unsettle things. Here's to everyone feeling better, the weather cooperating, and outside play for everyone! (:
I love your honesty! You are an inspiration to so many of us mothers out here...I love your blog and find so many ideas and encouragement here. I love this quote by Jill Churchill: "There's no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one." Praying that peaceful, beautiful, and healthy days are ahead of you!
How joyful he was with that little bowl of weather!

Don't let the unkind comments get you down. I didn't read the comment. But saw here that she apologized and hadn't intended to hurt. I can tell you are a wonderful Mama. Know that truly & deep down. We all have those moments we aren't proud of as parents, parenting is such a learning experience. We are all there with you on this learning experience. And not one of is perfect. I love what you say about grace being present in each and every moment. So true, grace, love, good it's all there in each moment, sometimes we just have to dig ourselves out mentally to see it there.

Love to you!
We all have ups and downs as people,parents. I love the bowl of hail, a great way to let him experience it firsthand!
Maybe if you get a chance you could watch this TED Talk: http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to...

In it, author Brene Brown talks about how being vulnerable is the best gift that we can give to each other because it teaches us empathy and connects us with one another. I believe that to be true-- and it is evidenced by all of the people who reply to your blog posts with comments such as, "me too! I feel that way sometimes too!"

Those who are uncomfortable when someone is vulnerable are dealing with their own shame and I'm sure that the comment from 'mother' has everything to do with what she is going through and nothing to do with you.

So, I wanted to say thank you for sharing all that you do on your blog and for being vulnerable and honest about all that you encounter. It's a beautiful thing, really!

xo Jennifer
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Thank you Jennifer! I am so touched. __Sophie was talking about you the other day,btw, someday we shall have to meet :)
Nicole, you are an amazing mother, and maybe part of your journey is learning to really see that and believe it.

I had a hard time with my kids today too and I didn't like how I handled it, and yes, I get that feeling about being the worst mama in the world too! But really, the best we can do in parenting is just be conscious and intentional, and always striving. I can tell that you are a wonderful wife and mama, I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability in this space, and I think it's beautiful that you dream with your children! :)
I have always said that motherhood is one big guilt trip. What I have not included is that the good mothers are the ones feeling the guilt. Why, because we care about our families more than anything in the whole world. If only more children had mothers who strive to be better mothers, our world would be much much better off! P.S. I am a pretty crumby momma but I know that God loves my family and his grace is sufficient for me to not totally mess them up lol.
The photos of the snow falling are just gorgeous! I hope this week picks up for you...both weather and parenting-wise. :) xoxo
The little baby looks so sweet in all his knitted clothes!
Hope the rest of the week flows much more smoothly for you, especially feelings-wise. I too am very sensitive so I know how even the slightest hurt feelings can affect an entire day (or longer).

We were in Seattle last week and had very similar weather. Sunshine in the morning, a quick hail storm, heavy rain, and then sunshine once again. So strange!
I appreciate your sharing your highs and lows with all of us. I imagine every single mother feels like the worst mother in the world at least some of the time. I look at your blog, and see your wonderful crafts and your precious children in their gorgeous handknits and think "she is such a better mother than me- I have piles of laundry and my kids don't have pants without holes in the knees and I can't manage to get any projects completed and we resorted to boxed mac and cheese last night so I could finish reading The Hunger Games and...." It is easy to read blogs and magazines and watch tv and see the illusion of perfection and think we are the only ones that aren't perfect. The reality is that not one us is perfect. I am very much appreciating blogs that are authentic- that show the goods and the not-so-goods. Thank you for being real- not a one-sided-image of attempted perefection. I like the idea of the good enough mother- the mother that teaches her children that perfection is not the goal.

Your children are thriving. You are doing a great job!!!
What beautiful photos--I was shivering in sympathy with the snow and the hail--and all on one day! What tremendous weather!

I love that you let L. play in the hail. Thank you for sharing your experience with us!
Thank you for your kindness everyone!

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