Sunday, July 13, 2014

A good dose of compassion

monkey winding wool monkey yarn compassion compassion compassion compassion blurry hand holding blurry hand holding While a monkey was busy winding yarn for me (and a kitty was trying to unwind it), K read Winter Days in the Big Woods to C. Shortly afterwards both girls felt inspired to create paper dolls like Ma did for Laura and Mary. K got straight to work and seemed rather confident in what she was doing. I noticed C, on the other hand, hesitating and watching what her big sister did. Once she observed long enough, she got to work. K had a doll done in no time and quickly made her some clothes as well. Then she got to work on another doll. C was still trying to draw her first doll and you could see a frown developing on her face. She was becoming frustrated. K looked up at her little sister and gently reminded her to be perseverant and that it would work out. C took her big sister's advice and soon afterwards was cutting out her own doll.

After K had finished two dolls (one for me!) with a change of clothes for each she was hungry and looking for something to eat. I asked her and C to reach a stopping point and clean up because dinner was almost ready. When C heard me say that she burst into tears. Before I could even come to her aid, K swooped in to comfort her. I stood back observing, seeing that this was a moment I should not interrupt. After a minute of consoling her little sister, K looked at what C was working on and then empathetically looked back at C. She seemed to understand what was the matter. She asked C if she could cut out a dress for her doll. C sniffled and nodded yes. Then K got to work, checking in with C at every step to make sure it was just what she wanted. C watched her big sister and each minute you could see her frown slowly fading. When K finished she handed it to C, and C showed her gratitude with a huge smile and hug for big sister. By this time, dinner was ready. I called them over to the table and with a nurturing glance and a huge smile, K grabbed C's hand and away they skipped to the table. For K, the greatest gift was in the giving to her little sister. I pray that all my children always feel this way.

Later that night after dinner I witnessed the compassion and love K showed C spill over to Little L  when he wanted a paper shark doll but couldn't make it. C stopped what she was doing and went over to Little L, just as K had done for her. She then proceeded to create that shark for him, smiling with each cut she made.

Compassion is contagious. I believe it's something we all need to practice more often and on more souls we come in contact with (I know I personally need to work on that!) Couldn't we all use a good dose of compassion (and empathy) in our lives? It's trickle down effect is just what this world needs!




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You have the sweetest children! I love your blog! It's so nice to know that other people out there really care about how their children treat each other. I try to teach my children about kindness and compassion too! Keep up the good work!
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
Thank you! I try so hard to teach them about kindness but I know that when its been a long day, I a not the best model. Seeing this little interaction really made my day.
What a wonderful post Nicole. Sometimes situations like this are best sorted by siblings or other children a similar age rather than us parents. How lovely to be able to witness it all.
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
Thank you. Yes, I feel so blessed to watch this sweet moment.
Lovely children. (And lovely blog) They are lucky to have a mother who is noticing such small, important things as this.
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
Aw, thank you! I hope we can continue down this path.
You have wonderful children, be proud of the amazing job your doing
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
You are too kind, thank you!
Ph man. I have been reading your blog for a while and I never comment on blogs but this... this was just beautiful. Thank you for sharing. Just what I needed to hear on a Monday morning after a difficult weekend.
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
So nice to hear from you Alisha! Thank you for your sincere comment. I hope the week brightened up for you!
You're children seem so sweet. I can imagine your love and pride!
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
Thank you! They have their moments, for sure, but oh this moment nearly made me burst!
What a sweet and touching post! I am pregnant with our first child and hope and pray I may a model of compassion to my child and future children, just as you are (as they could not have shown such compassion without first seeing it from you!)
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
Thank you, Margaret and CONGRATS! What exciting news!!
When I looked at the photos of your girls I just thought how loving they appear to each other. Then you told us about how caring they are to each other. Oh I was so thrilled for you and them. I don't have any siblings and really wish I had that relationship. Thanks for sharing your lovely photos.
Ali xx
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
Oh thank you Ali. I ,too, wish I had relationships like theirs. I tell them all the time that when I was growing up I wished I had a sister. I have a brother that I love dearly but we are nearly 10 years apart so we never had that closeness.
Nicole, I love this so much.. I see moments like this in my boys as they play and it just warms my heart.
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
Isn't it such a wonderful thing to see? It makes those rough times seem so trivial.
I agree! Actually, I decided to use your story to discuss the subject of compassion with my almost 5-year-old boy. His baby sister is now at 10 months and follows him around the house, trying to imitate everything he does. I let him look at the photos and told him the story of Big sister and Little sister who were cutting out paper dolls. When we got to the point where Mama said they had to start cleaning up and Little sister still did not have a dress for her doll, I asked him: What do you think happened next? He took a moment to think and then whispered: "Did Little sister cut her older sister's paper doll into pieces?". "No, I replied and I could tell his relief when I explained that she wouldn't do that because she didn't want to hurt her sister. "She started crying" I proceeded, and do you know what Big sister did then?". I could tell he knew the answer because his face lit up when he looked at me and answered "She HELPED her little sister make a paper dress!". I was very happy to tell him yes, that's exactly what happened :) Later that day him and his sister were playing together and I heard him say: "Let me help you with that because you are my little sister and I can help you when you can't do things by yourself". See? You're paying it forward ;)
1 reply · active 558 weeks ago
Oh my goodness, you made my week by taking the time to share that with me! My heart sings with gladness that our little story could help others. <3 <3
What a sweet little boy you have!

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